Fall Retreat '23 - Catskills Mountain, New York

Saturday, October 28, 2023

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Fall foliage in New York, Oct 2023

Guess what? We made it happen! Our Rochacha family went on a quick trip to the Catskills Mountains to see the colorful leaves of autumn. It was a spontaneous decision that filled us with excitement. We packed our stuff and hit the road. The Catskills Mountains are famous for their beautiful fall colors, and we couldn’t wait to see them.

Our Catskills adventure kicked off with an exciting rental—an Airbnb in Windham, perfectly accommodating our lively crew of 16. The house was a dream, boasting five bedrooms, a playroom for endless entertainment, a spacious kitchen, and, the cherry on top, a hot tub for relaxation.

We jumped right into the fun by starting with cooking. We all decided to make Nasi Kandar, a tasty Malaysian dish, potluck-style. Laughter filled the big kitchen as we each added our own touches to the meal. The delicious smells cooking up got us excited for dinner. Cooking together made us feel closer and eager to enjoy the meal we created.

Our cooking adventure hit a few snags—the stove decided to test our patience, making the chicken take forever to fry. But finally, at 11 PM, dinner was served! The late hour didn't dull our spirits, though. We turned the night into a laugh-filled session of chats and jokes that lasted till the wee hours. The next morning, some of us turned chefs and whipped up a fantastic breakfast—Roti Canai and Nasi Goreng. Energized and ready, we embarked on an epic hike to Kaaterskill Falls, chasing the vibrant fall foliage and chasing waterfalls! As we ventured along the trails, the autumn foliage painted a breathtaking panorama around us. The vivid colors of the changing leaves seemed straight out of a painting, creating a magical atmosphere. The hike to the falls, around 2 hours or so, was an exhilarating challenge. It involved navigating through rocky paths and steep stairways, each step unveiling glimpses of the stunning scenery. The cascading sound of water grew louder as we neared, building anticipation for the magnificent sight ahead. Upon arrival, the awe-inspiring Kaaterskill Falls unfolded before our eyes—a cascade of water plunging gracefully over rocky cliffs, casting a mist that danced in the air. The sheer beauty of the falls against the backdrop of vibrant autumn foliage left us spellbound. Despite the challenging hike, the sight was an absolute reward, etching itself into our memories. The serenity of nature’s masterpiece at Kaaterskill Falls became a highlight of our Catskills getaway, a moment that captured the essence of fall's splendor and the allure of the great outdoors.

Katterskill Falls, Catskill NY 2023
At 3 PM, we boarded the Fall Foliage Train Ride, an hour of serenity amidst breathtaking scenery. The best part? Picking our very own pumpkins for some carving fun! Hunger struck hard after that adventure, leading us back home. Dinner turned into a culinary extravaganza—rack of lamb, lamb BBQ, mashed potatoes, and salad—everyone lending a hand in the kitchen. Post-dinner, the fun continued with karaoke, board games, and Nintendo Switch battles that kept us wide awake until 3 AM! The next morning, a swift coffee fueled our goodbyes as we headed home. It was an absolute blast, and I'm already missing these moments as I think about heading back to Malaysia.

Us, before a hike


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Yosemite has my heart

Saturday, October 7, 2023

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It's like living in a wilderness

Our impromptu decision to explore Yosemite led us to book a last-minute tour via Viator, setting the stage for an adventure that would leave an incredible mark on our memories. The day commenced early, with a 5 AM pick-up at San Francisco's downtown aboard a minibus. While not as plush as our previous Canyon X trip, it efficiently ferried us from San Francisco to Yosemite, a journey spanning roughly 3 hours each way. Traversing the roadways during Labor Day promised delays and traffic, particularly at the park entrance. The winding, meandering roads proved challenging for some, especially those prone to motion sickness. Fortunately, the tour bus made a pit stop before the entrance, accommodating restroom breaks and offering the chance to purchase lunch since options within the park were limited. Arriving around 11 AM, Yosemite unveiled its breathtaking beauty, greeting us with the majestic presence of El Capitan. Upon disembarking, we were granted three hours of freedom to pursue hiking or any other desired activities. Opting to witness the grandeur of Yosemite Falls, we embarked on a short but invigorating hike. One fun fact about Yosemite National Park is that it's home to some of the tallest waterfalls in North America. Yosemite Falls, with a total drop of 2,425 feet (739 meters), is among the world's highest waterfalls. It comprises three sections: Upper Yosemite Fall, Middle Cascades, and Lower Yosemite Fall. The magnificence of the falls, coupled with the serene surroundings, made every step worthwhile. As we ascended the trail, the sounds of nature serenaded our journey, and the allure of Yosemite's natural wonders enveloped us.

Our stroll through Yosemite's trails became an immersive experience in nature's embrace. Towering trees, the gentle rush of nearby streams, and the crisp mountain air created a serene atmosphere. It was a chance to unwind, disconnect, and revel in the simplicity of nature's beauty.



Spending just four hours in Yosemite felt like peeking at a stunning painting through a tiny hole. We caught quick glimpses of Half Dome and wandered a bit in nature, but Yosemite's vast beauty deserved so much more. Those few hours barely touched Yosemite's wonders. It's like only seeing the cover of a great book. I'm determined to come back and spend a few days really exploring Yosemite's wilderness. There's a whole world of nature waiting to be discovered, and I can't wait to dive in and explore it all.


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A quick trip to San Francisco

Monday, October 2, 2023

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 The Golden Gate Bridge


When San Francisco is mentioned, the iconic image of the Golden Gate Bridge immediately springs to mind. Visiting San Francisco has long been on my bucket list before departing the States. My fascination with the city began after watching The Princess Diaries, and it has remained a dream destination ever since.


Originally, our plan was to spend two and a half days exploring SF. However, our plans took an unexpected turn due to a lengthy delay in our flight from Las Vegas, resulting in our arrival in SF at 10 PM. Exhausted from the journey, we chose to stay in for the night. Moreover, we had booked a Yosemite tour for the next morning, necessitating an early 5 AM departure, making rest the most sensible choice. As a result, we only had a single day to experience the city of San Francisco.


We devoted our sole day to exploring popular landmarks. Rising around 8 AM, we got an Uber to go theGolden Gate Bridge. However, upon arrival, thick fog obscured our view of the bridge. Undeterred, we proceeded to our next stop: Lombard Street.


To get to Lombard Street was quite a challenge as we had to ascend a slope of more than 45 degrees. It felt like a mini-hike. Yet, the effort was entirely worthwhile. The vantage point offered an incredible view of the San Francisco horizon. As anticipated, the area was bustling with tourists taking pictures. While some opted to drive along the winding Lombard Street, we chose to leisurely walk down the street. There were even stairs available for pedestrians like us, offering a unique perspective on this iconic spot.

SF skyline from Lombard Street


 Lombard Street 

After spending around 45 minutes there, we boarded a bus headed to Fisherman's Wharf. Navigating through SF was a breeze thanks to the helpful MuniMobile App. Upon arrival, we strolled around the bustling Fisherman's Wharf, exploring various souvenir shops. However, it felt a bit underwhelming with limited activities. Nevertheless, I did get a distant view of Alcatraz, which was quite a sight. Since we missed seeing the Golden Gate Bridge that morning, we decided to give it another shot around noon when the sun was shining. Luckily, fortune favored us, and we were able to witness the breathtaking beauty of the bridge.



Afterward, we headed to Japantown, acclaimed as the largest Japantown in the States. Wandering through the mall, it genuinely felt like stepping into Japan itself. We indulged in the best sushi, with the flavors of sweet shrimp and scallop nigiri lingering in my memory. Following our satisfying meal, we trekked back to our hotel. However, the walking experience in SF wasn't what I anticipated. The heat and the long stretches felt more like a taxing hike. Certain blocks appeared run-down, with a noticeable homeless presence. It became clear that being cautious about where to walk was essential. Our hotel, the Beacon Hotel, was conveniently located close to Powell Street, where the cable cars operate. Though we were eager to experience the iconic cable car ride, our tight schedule didn't allow for a lengthy wait. Understanding the wait time required, we decided it wasn't the best use of our limited time.


Our San Francisco escapade concluded with a glimpse of the iconic cable car before we made our way to San Francisco Airport around 7 PM, ensuring we caught our 9 PM flight back to Albany.


San Francisco offers a plethora of popular landmarks to explore, making it a worthwhile destination for a visit. However, while I appreciated the iconic attractions, it might not be a place I feel compelled to revisit.

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Of Orange Rock and Canyons

Saturday, September 30, 2023

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Our tour group

Even before arriving in the US, I always dreamed of visiting the Grand Canyon National Park, a majestic place that draws travelers from around the world. However, instead of going there specifically, I opted for Antelope Canyon in Page, Arizona. I chose to reserve a day trip with Marvitt Tour via TripAdvisor, despite the higher cost, because it spared me the inconvenience of handling driving, ticket arrangements, and finding parking


Our journey commenced at 4 AM, with our guide, Alex, picking us up at the hotel in a comfortable van suitable for 13 people. Departing from Las Vegas, our route took us through Utah until we finally reached Page, Arizona—a five-hour journey. Choosing Canyon X was deliberate; I aimed to steer clear of crowds. Upon arrival, Alex efficiently managed all our tickets, allowing us to wait comfortably in the car for about 15 minutes until our group was called.




            Managed to capture these rocks on our way to Canyon X

Essentially, to access Canyon X, you need to purchase a ticket and be accompanied by a Navajo tour guide. If you choose to go without a guide, you still require an entrance ticket, and the Navajo people will direct you there. When our group was called, we boarded a van, and our Navajo tour guide drove us to Canyon X. Upon arrival, a lady was waiting for us. To enter the canyon, we had to descend stairs for about 8 minutes. Once inside, the walk became easier. We visited at the end of August, and I'm not kidding, the weather was extreme. It was scorching hot, and the wind wasn't friendly to us at all.


The tour took about an hour, with every moment etching an unforgettable experience. As we descended into the depths of Canyon X, the light played mesmerizing games against the sandstone walls, creating kaleidoscopic patterns that danced with every step. The sheer majesty of the narrow passageways and the towering walls left us in awe.


Our guide, with a keen eye for photography, not only navigated us through the twists and turns but also doubled as a photographer extraordinaire. She knew the best spots for those coveted Instagram-worthy shots, and she skillfully captured moments that we would treasure forever. The natural light filtering through the narrow openings above painted the canyon in hues of red, orange, and gold, casting enchanting shadows that added to the mystique of the place. Despite the searing heat outside, inside the canyon, a cool respite greeted us, offering relief from the relentless sun. The serenity within those walls, the silence that enveloped us, broken only by the occasional whisper of the wind, felt almost otherworldly. The strict no-video policy felt like a blessing in disguise. It compelled us to immerse ourselves fully in the experience, to absorb every detail with our eyes and hearts rather than through the lens of a camera.


As we ascended back to the surface, bidding farewell to Canyon X, the heat of the desert welcomed us once more. But this time, it seemed easier to bear, fueled by the memories of an extraordinary journey into the depths of a natural wonder. The van ride back was filled with chatter and laughter, as each of us shared our favorite moments, our hearts brimming with gratitude for the beauty we had witnessed.





On our way back from the mesmerizing depths of Canyon X, our adventure wasn't quite over yet. We made a couple of pit stops that turned out to be unexpected delights. First up was Horseshoe Bend—an iconic natural wonder that had beckoned us from afar. Exiting the van, we were immediately greeted by the desert's fierce elements. The wind howled relentlessly, carrying grains of sand that felt like tiny darts against our skin. The walk to witness the breathtaking curve of Horseshoe Bend was nothing short of challenging. Each step felt like a battle against the wind, with gusts threatening to knock us off balance. But every struggle was worth it. Arriving at the overlook, the sheer magnificence of Horseshoe Bend stole our breaths away. The Colorado River snaked around the massive canyon in a perfect curve, creating a sight that was both humbling and awe-inspiring. The wind, though unrelenting, couldn't detract from the beauty laid out before us.


After our encounter with Horseshoe Bend, we journeyed onwards to Lake Powell. The landscape changed once again, offering a serene contrast to the ruggedness we had encountered earlier. The vast expanse of the lake, its tranquil waters mirroring the cerulean sky, provided a peaceful interlude to our adventurous day. Before the sun sets, we had to leave Lake Powell. It was hard to say goodbye after such an exciting day with so many cool things to see.

       I am doing okay with height usually but the wind make me scared lah to sit on the edge

On our way back to Las Vegas, a storm surprised us in the desert. Our guide managed it well. We finally got back to Las Vegas at 10 PM. The city lights looked welcoming after our adventure. It was a wild day, with unexpected weather, but it made our trip unforgettable, showing us the wild beauty of the Southwest. Each of us carried memories etched by wind, sand, light, and the profound beauty of the canyons—a day that had ventured beyond our expectations and gifted us with moments that would linger in our hearts forever.


Even though the Grand Canyon remained on my bucket list, I couldn't have been more grateful for choosing the path less traveled, for venturing into the lesser-known but equally spectacular realm of Antelope Canyon's hidden gem, Canyon X.



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Lost in Vegas

Wednesday, September 13, 2023

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Little did I know, Vegas would quickly become one of my favorite cities in the United States. Las Vegas, also known as Sin City, lives up to its reputation with its never-ending casinos and a nightlife that transforms the city into a dazzling, wild spectacle after dark.


Before bidding farewell to the U.S. and returning to Malaysia for good, I decided to treat myself to a West Coast adventure. The plan was simple: visit Las Vegas, marvel at the awe-inspiring Grand Canyon, and explore the iconic city of San Francisco. Las Vegas had a special place on my itinerary because it served as the ideal base for my Grand Canyon excursion, and the sheer number of tour companies offering day trips made it all the more convenient.


Our Vegas adventure spanned three unforgettable days. We flew on an early morning flight from Albany, and let me tell you, when it comes to travel, it's never too early xD. By noon, we had touched down in Vegas. Stepping outside the airport to get an Uber, I couldn't help but be reminded of the scorching heat that hits you like a sledgehammer when you exit KLIA back in Malaysia. The intense desert heat in Vegas made me feel like a roasted chicken in the oven. Although the distance from the airport to the famous Vegas Strip was a mere 10 minutes, the traffic situation could add another 10 minutes to your journey, depending on the time of day. Fortunately, we arrived on a weekday, which spared us some traffic woes. Securing an Uber was a breeze, with the service readily available whenever we needed it.


The Las Vegas Strip or some people called it  "The Strip," is an iconic stretch of road that epitomizes the glitz, glamour, and extravagance of Las Vegas. Lined with some of the world's most renowned resorts, hotels, and casinos, it's a vibrant, neon-lit boulevard that never sleeps. As you stroll down The Strip, you'll be immersed in a world of sensory overload. Gigantic LED screens flash advertisements and entertainers in dazzling costumes beckon you for photos. 


You can technically visit many popular landmarks around the world simply by visiting Vegas. You'll find the Egyptian-themed Luxor with its iconic pyramid and sphinx, as well as the Venetian, which boasts the canals of Venice. The Bellagio features its iconic fountains, Paris Las Vegas has the Eiffel Tower replica, and New York-New York offers a replica of the New York City skyline. Inside these resorts, you can explore their own casinos. The atmosphere within these casinos varies depending on the resort's star rating. My favorite would be The Bellagio's.\



We stayed at The LINQ, which located at the heart of The Strip and the LINQ Promade was just a stone away. The LINQ is a decent hotel. We got a 2 queen beds room at level 15 facing the pool. You literally just need to go out of the building and you could see The Flamingo (another resort), Harrahs and Chaser Palace. There are a lot of restaurants around too. Mind you, The Strip seems pretty small but, you probably need transport to walk from front to end of The Strip. Plus, you don't wanna walk the whole day when it was 106 degree outside. We occupied our first day by walking around and familiarize ourselves with the city. Thank godness, they have monorail: Las Vegas Monorail operating from 7am to 2am. So, we bought a day pass to go here and there. It provides a quick access to some attractions. The LINQ hotel where we stayed are connected to the monorail station which make it even better. We mostly walk around during the day and we easily reached 20K steps within few hours. Those all thanks to got lost in the casinos because we could find the right way out. Sometimes we ended up in a different part of the building.


On our first evening, we enjoyed an upscale dinner at Matteo's Ristorante Italiano, situated within The Venetian. Interestingly, we hadn't originally intended to dine there. Instead, after a captivating 20-minute stroll and being captivated by the neon lights of Caesars Palace, the name of our initially planned restaurant somehow slipped from our minds. So, we ended up at The Venetian and picked a restaurant that caught our attention on the spot. 


Kak Iem took the reins when it came to researching our dining options, and I was perfectly fine with whatever she chose because our taste preferences aligned. We woke up early the next morning to have breakfast, always sticking together. She discovered a breakfast buffet, and we were thrilled about it, so we headed to Paris Las Vegas. However, our excitement turned into disappointment when we found out that the buffet had permanently closed due to Covid. Once again, we had to pick a restaurant that was open, and we settled on Alexa's. The menu choices were decent, but one can't expect much variation from an American breakfast, right?


Our day began with a hearty breakfast, setting the stage for an impromptu adventure along The Strip, stretching from Paris Las Vegas to the Excalibur. Amidst our leisurely stroll, we couldn't resist a visit to the Coca-Cola shop. But, our feet weren't exactly thrilled with our choice of footwear, so we made an unexpected detour to the Skechers store. It's funny howe both wound up with snazzy new sandals, a decision that wasn't anywhere on our radar but proved to be a savior on that scorching day.


Continuing our jaunt towards the MGM Grand, we stumbled upon The Stranger Things Exhibition, organized by Netflix. Personally, I'd only managed to watch four episodes of the series before getting sidetracked, but the exhibition proved to be an unexpected delight. The exhibition has an assortment of souvenirs available for an avid fans. We were there just to snap some pictures. 


Upon leaving the exhibition, fatigue had set in, but we pushed ourselves to walk until we reached Excalibur. Believe me, the heat was relentless, with the sun's rays beating down on us, intensifying the scorching conditions, and the air felt as dry as the Sahara desert. When we finally arrived, we opted for a detour, heading back to the hotel to catch some much-needed rest. At the very least, we had the chance to catch a glimpse of Luxor, complete with its Egyptian theme, featuring a pyramid and the Sphinx. That was certainly enough for us.


That night, we finally get to see a Cirque Du Soleil show. This one is one of the most anticipating things I've been looking for in our trip. We watched 'O' which is held in The Bellagio. We head to The Bellagio early to eat some dinner at LAGO. We did not make a reservation because YOLO. Luckily they accepted us. The Bellagio would be my favorite resort. The architecture and decoration is so luxury. After the show, we went to see the iconic Bellagio Watershow. It's free! We ended our night a tad bit early because we have to wake up super early to catch a tour to Canyon X. 



                        

Man, the photo quality is like we were in the early 2000. After the show!

                                                        Us, in front of the Bellagio 
    





I would say Las Vegas is a must go to place if you want to see a vibrant city lights and I would definitely go again!




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A tranquil retreat

Monday, August 28, 2023

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Nestled in Upstate New York, the Adirondacks stand as a testament to nature's beauty and serenity, a reminder that New York is more than just the city. If you're a nature enthusiast like me ehemmmm, there's a lot to explore. I drove from Albany to Saranac Lake for about 2 hours, booking an Airbnb there. The journey wasn't just a regular drive; it unfolded as a picturesque trip through rolling landscapes. I can only imagine how vibrant and gorgeous it gets during the fall season. I arrived around seven and met my friends from Rochester.


The Airbnb surprised me with its charm. The pictures on the app didn't do justice to its beauty. Tucked amidst whispering pines and nature's embrace, the cabin was a blend of rustic charm and modern comfort. Its quiet location offered us an escape, with the chorus of cicadas replacing the city's noise.


The next day, despite the weather not being on our side, we ventured to Lake George for a boat tour. It rained unexpectedly, and the cold caught us off guard. Fortunately, the rain paused upon our arrival, though the sun remained hidden. The two-hour boat tour included tubing and a lake exploration with our own captain. We marveled at the stunning lake houses; some Americans own these as summer retreats, a true luxury.


I figured, why not take another shot at paddle boarding? There's something about its challenge, the need for balance and a solid core, that really gets me excited. And you know what? It was an absolute blast! Our day was completely taken over by Lake George – the water adventures were non-stop. We even squeezed in a visit to the Olympic Training Center in Lake Placid. Picture this: kids gliding down slopes, skiing with such ease – it was seriously jaw-dropping! The night was pretty slow and relaxing. My friends made fresh pizza and we nyanyi till we drop! As night fell, things took a slower and more relaxed turn. With my buddies whipping up fresh pizza, we laughed and chatted until we couldn't keep our eyes open anymore!


The next morning, we went for a short hike to High Falls Gorge. The waterfall is pretty and we can see White Face Mountain from there. I was so refreshing. Each step you take along the trail shows you a different view of nature's power and beauty. It's a spot that makes you feel small in a big world and reminds you of how incredible our planet is. I'll definitely go back during Fall when leaves turned orange and vibrant! 


For anyone who loves nature and wants a break from the busy city, I recommend visiting The Adirondacks. The Adirondacks are truly special! Picture vast forests, calm lakes, and towering mountains. It's paradise for those who love adventure and nature. Whether you're hiking, paddling, or just enjoying the fresh mountain air, the Adirondacks have a magical effect that makes you feel alive.


My next target hike would be Mount Marcy, one of the highest peak in The Adirondacks. 

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Live In Moderation

Wednesday, May 3, 2023

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Unrelated image. Sunset I captured from my room today

 


I had a chat with Luqman the other day,

“I don’t think it’s wrong to have big dreams. I want to have a luxury car, a big house, etc.” I said. 

“However, Islam has taught us to live in moderation. You definitely need a car—a functional one, but a luxurious one? “I don’t believe so.” He was opposed.

“What if I don’t want to live a moderate lifestyle?” “What if I want more than I have?” I argued.

“Perhaps you should be more thankful for what you have.” “As humans, we will never be satisfied with what we have,” he debated.

The talk continued. I was obstinate and clung to my opinions.

Luqman said “Maybe you should do some reflection on what you just said.”.  

I was too tired to argue any further because it was already 1 a.m. Yes, the time difference is difficult. However, it protects Luqman from my “stupid” attack.

Then we ended the call.

The next day, I did what he told me. Yes, I did some research, mainly because I wanted to counter his argument.

Then I led to an article about how Islam values moderation.

Essentially, we are advised to avoid extremes in everything—worship, belonging, prosperity, and so on.

But, when I think about it, having a luxury car or an enormous house isn’t necessarily a bad thing. What’s wrong is that once you get those luxuries, you tend to change and become ungrateful and self-centered.

Having a fortune might be frightening.

It is crucial in life to maintain the proper amount of equilibrium between one’s requirements and desires.

The thought of desiring more can be suffocating. It’s going to be stressful. You will never be satisfied with what you have. That is undeniably correct.

After all of that contemplation, I came to an agreement. It all comes down to how happy you are with your life, regardless of how much money you have or how much property you possess.

All I want is peace of mind and happiness in my life, which means I need to start counting my blessings.

p/s: I still want to own a car and a home. Perhaps not a Mercedes or an Audi. Perhaps a Toyota would suffice to transport me. And probably not a big 10-bedroom mansion. Perhaps a four-bedroom house is adequate for us two.

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My Last Eid In The US

Thursday, April 27, 2023

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Relaxing dekat backyard Kak Iem sambil gossip. JK

Eid fell on Friday (April 21st) this year in the States, which meant that we celebrated Eid a day earlier than in Malaysia. Thank God I decided to use some of my PTO for EID. Eid this year was a bit different as it would be my last Eid abroad, so I wanted to create as many moments as possible. This was also my first Eid as a wife, although I didn’t get to celebrate with Luqman. Nonetheless, I still enjoyed my Eid this year. I went to Rochester to celebrate with my Rochacha family there.

Kak Iem and I had been planning for Eid a month earlier, and we decided to make Lemang from scratch. That was the highlight of my Eid this year. I had never made lemang before, let alone in the US. We bought bamboo from Etsy, and the price was a bit high. A shoutout to Kak Iem’s husband for helping us look after the lemang while we were busy cooking rendang and daging dendeng!

On the first day of Eid, we ate together at noon and then headed over to another open house. It was a good time to see familiar faces. Aunty Sally had an open house on the second day of Raya, and Kak Iem and I decided to host another open house on the third day of Eid. I was swamped with cooking, eating, and a photoshoot in between. One thing I love about celebrating Eid abroad is that you don’t get unnecessary questions about work, kids, etc. It’s more about enjoying each other’s company and good food. I am going to miss celebrating Eid abroad.


Hasil titik peluh 4 jam tunggu. Lemang besar gajah

Our lemang nampak hangus tapi dekat dalam just nice 

Happy face sebab boleh makan lemang this year

With my Rochacha Fam :D

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I went home after 3 years!

Monday, April 17, 2023

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This is another long-overdue post. I went home after 3 years! It felt surreal since everyone I saw last time grown up and a lot of thing has changed since then. I went home for a month and a half. I got married (which I will update in the next post).

I missed a lot of exciting events and returned home to new people in my family, as my brother recently married. Anyway, the trip to Malaysia was satisfying and fascinating. And it was my first flight with Japan Airlines. I had a layover in Haneda. Who doesn’t like Japan, after all? Japan captured my heart. I had a 9-hour layover that felt insignificant. I got to try premium sushi for only $28! This type of sushi is never offered in the United States, at least not at that price. I’m not gonna lie: as a fan of kawaii merch, I splurged on gifts at duty-free shops. That concludes my brief visit to Haneda Airport.

I arrived in Malaysia on November 21st. I almost cried when the flight attendant announced, “To Malaysians, welcome home.” It really hit the softest spot in my heart. Luqman picked me up at the airport, and we went to TBS to pick up my sister. That was her first time meeting Luqman. Well, not really. They had already met, but I wasn’t there. We went to Luqman’s home and dropped our luggage there. We had lunch at Kenny Hills. The smoked duck pasta was to die for! That was our first date in Malaysia!

I at last got to view my Nikah outfit the following day. I basically had a virtual meeting with the designer and created the design myself. I also added French lace to the basic baju kurung. The fitting went well, but they still need to make some repairs because it was larger than I had anticipated. It was fixed in a single day. Aida deserves praise for making things easier for me. I was able to pick up my dress before I left for Besut after she fixed it in a single day.

Also, one of the most dreaded things was getting my visa stamped. I had an early morning interview. I arrived a little bit later than I planned because of the traffic in KL. The interview went well, but I forgot to bring my passport photo. Thank God I don’t have to set up another interview session. They told me to drop off my passport photo at Aramark HQ. I got my passport five days later.

I went home after 3 days in KL. I finally got to see and decorate my new room! I’m so glad to be home, and I didn’t have to be an adult for weeks. Like, I could wake up in the morning and the breakfast is ready, I don’t have to decide what I want to have for dinner etc. Overall, it was something I missed the most.

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"23" for 2023

Sunday, January 29, 2023

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Perhaps it is too late to write this down because January will soon be over. Last year was fantastic, but I did not maximize my potential, particularly in terms of personal development. So there you have it. I’ve been spending some time actually making lists that are doable while also pushing me to be the best version of myself.


1. Read more – I’m not a bookworm, I do read but not the actual book. Maybe because my reading materials are more factual, and I had a hard time to digest. I would like to change my taste in books and we will see how it goes. So, this year, my goal is to read 7 books. Yes, lucky number seven. 

2. Track my habit: Did you know that it takes 21 days to actually make habits stick? I’ve been working on my habit tracker on a Google Sheet (which I did myself), and so far I am nowhere near close to actually reaching my habit goals. I believe having a to do everyday would be a good combination to my habit tracker. My goal is to stick to that particular habit for at least 25 days in a month.

3. Learn Mandarin. I love learning new languages and I have a list of languages I would love to learn. But, I always learn  basic phrases and stop. I used to take Mandarin class back in college and I stopped once I reached intermediate level.  I was having a hard time juggling lab work , research, and language class. I still remember some but this time I really want to focus and learn new vocab. 

4. Start a recipe blog. I still have my recipe blog, which I created in 2018. Somehow, things happened, and I lost interest in cooking. I want to get my passion back and continue to share, or at least have a record of what I’ve cooked. I want to post at least 23 recipes this year.

5. Solo vacations as a birthday gift to myself. I have a rough plan to go to the West Coast and DC this year. 

6. Exercise more. Ideally, I need to walk at least 30 minutes a day. On top of that, spend 15 minutes stretching in the morning and afternoon. 

7. Travel with Luqman: We didn’t have the opportunity to go on a honeymoon after our wedding; this is something I’ve been discussing with Luqman since we got married. I do not have the exact plan, but we will figure this out once we have enough budget to do so. Maybe somewhere in October or November.

8. A getaway with my parents—I would love to bring my parents somewhere. Maybe to Penang like we used to go when I was a kid. I want to relive those moments and just be a kid for a couple days. or maybe somewhere further.

9. Write a letter to my future self. I have always had this plan in my mind since 2 years ago. I think this year would be a great time to start.

10. Volunteering. I’ve been searching for a good place to volunteer. I do not have the opportunity to do so yet because I do not have the resources to start.

11. Track my monthly expenses. I need to be better with my money management so I can reach my savings goal this year.

12. Host a party at our house; I miss having a board game night. Both Luqman and I love board games so much. A board game night party has been on my mind a lot for the past few weeks.

13. Learn how to swim—yeap, I can’t really swim. I love water sports a lot, but now I have a limitation on how far I can go since I can’t swim—just yet.

14. Learn to edit video. A part of me loves doing this kind of thing, but I am not an expert. I would like to know more about editing videos to make them more pleasing.

15. Learn baking! I want to make focaccia bread from scratch!

16. Go on a hike! Maybe I can drag Luqman with me.

17. Get my supplements! I have a vitamin D deficiency. I have to remind myself to take it every day.

18. Buy a KitchenAid mixer—I’ve been eyeing this for years now.

19. Visit a National Park in the US – Grand Canyon specifically!

20. Get a facial aka spa day. It’s time to focus more on my skincare.

21. Finish courses in Coursera and Udemy – I have multiple courses I enrolled but have not yet finished. My goal is to finish them by March, after which I can add new stuff to learn.

22. Learn Tajweed so I can recite Quran better.  

23. Save at least $__k by the end of the year.

It does sound like a lot. However, I really want to make sure I achieved at least 90% from the list.


Toodles!

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Lock In For Life 💍

Monday, January 23, 2023

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It has been 2 months since the wedding. I’m still in disbelief, wondering how so many months of planning, anticipation, and excitement boiled down to the happiest and most beautiful hours of my life that felt like minutes, and then boom!!, it’s over.

A day before, I just found out that Luqman has to prepare the dowry, or “mas kahwin” physically. You know, in this era where technology plays a big part in our lives, we thought Luqman could just transfer the money to my bank and print the receipt as a proof. Hahahaha, silly me. It didn’t work that way. I was anxious and flooded with all the what-if situations in my head. Getting a handsome amount of money within a day is impossible, especially during the weekend. The bank was closed. Luqman was on his way to my place, which took him half a day to get here. Plus, he was with his driver, and it might not be safe to carry a huge amount when you have a stranger around. Even if he could, he has a limited amount he can withdraw. On the other hand, I have limited ways to get money as I don’t really use my Malaysian bank that often. I only can withdraw money from ATM that has VISA. Thank God, my umi and ayah came to the rescue and had the money ready. So, Luqman could easily transfer the money to their bank account. Phew~

December is monsoon season on the east coast, so it is expected to rain. But we did not expect it to be that heavy. The weather was beautiful a week before my Nikkah. But the rain didn’t stop pouring when my big day approached. I went out with Luqman and his mom and sister to pick up our other dress. I was super anxious a day before and I could not stay still and followed my sister to pick the youngest from school. I remember all my parents, siblings, uncles, and aunties were busy preparing for my big day under the rain the night before. I could not thank them enough for their extra help. The night before went by pretty quickly. Everyone was busy preparing for the next day, and it felt weird because I used to do all the preparation for my friends’ weddings in the States, but it was my turn now. I didn’t really help much that night, plus I had to do my henna. My sister-in-law helped me with the henna. I was planning to go to sleep early, as that’s what I heard from my friends. I planned but didn’t happened. I did my henna and my skincare and looked at the clock; it was already 12:30 PM. My sisters and I slept together in my bedroom that night. The rain hasn’t stopped…

My brother knocked on my door the next morning when I awoke. He informed me that Fauzan, my non-biological twin, had just arrived. I nodded and tried to sleep again. The time was 5 a.m. I have to get up and ready at 6 a.m. I tried to close my eyes, but I couldn’t. I was both nervous and excited. It was my special day. It had finally arrived! I had no trouble getting out of bed that morning. When I entered the kitchen, my siblings and sister-in-law were already preparing the food. I showered and prepared myself. It continued to rain… In the interim, my photographer arrived and took some photos. I finished my makeup around 9:30 a.m. I was expecting Luqman’s side to arrive. Ayah approached me and requested my permission to marry me to Luqman. Ayah does not express his love in an obvious way. It was a touching moment for me.

The rain suddenly came to a halt. The sun finally came out. Luqman and Tok Kadi have arrived at my house. The MC tuned in selawat. I walked beside Umi to the pelamin. I saw Luqman in his white Baju Melayu. He looked good and neat. I was anxious as everyone was there waiting for the ceremony to start. The Tok Kadi proceeded with the ceremony, and he asked Luqman whether he knew how to ucap lafaz nikkah. Well, he said no. Everyone laughed. Luqman just goes with the lafaz nikkah he learned when we went to Majlis Nikah orang lain. The ceremony was done in 30 minutes. I did not expect it to be that fast and simple. We proceed with the ring exchange session. We were both awkward. Luqman was puzzled, as he didn’t know where to put the ring on my finger. And once again, everyone laughed. He is very good at making jokes.

I don’t really have an exact flow to my Nikkah ceremony. We just played it by ear since the rain hadn’t fully stopped. It drizzles sometimes, but we have canopies. We had makan beradab after that. Unfortunately, the caterer did not prepare the special food for the groom and bride. But I don’t really take it seriously, and that issue did not really affect me. We had a lot of food. I mean, a lot! My parents tend to be extra generous when it comes to giving food. Guests are king, y’know. We had gulai kawah, ayam masak merah, nasi minyak, fruits, and beverages from the caterer. On top of that, my family cooked extra food too. Some brought kuih-muih. My brother and his wife made Mee Kari, and my sisters cooked Colek Ayam. I don’t really eat much that afternoon. Maybe because I was so on a cloud. 

The MC was very good with her duty. She walked around and asked our family to give a speech on the spot. Luqman and I were not excluded. Luqman’s speech was funny. “Saya sangat bahagia hari ini, saya harap anda pun bahagia”, he said. This guy never fails to crack jokes. Everyone was pretty amused by his speech. Luqman’s family stayed until noon. Later that day, many more guests arrived. Umi and Ayah’s friends and extended families were mostly present. The rest of the day went even faster. Soon, it was an outdoor photoshoot. We went to the beach. I’m glad that the rain had stopped by then. The shoot was successful. We went home with half-wet clothes and sand everywhere. There were stains on my Baju Kurung and Luqman’s Baju Melayu. By the end of the day, I was exhausted. I was starving that night. And finally, I got to eat all the food. I would say that everything eventually falls into place. Months of worries were completely worth it. 

Even after a month, the feelings are still there. I’m deeply grateful for everyone who helped make our day so perfect and for the outpouring of love from people who’ve been an important part of our story.



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